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MY FEAR STORY​​

​For much of my life, I was terrified of spiders.  They crawl super fast, and they always seem to appear out of nowhere, taking advantage of the element of surprise!  I would seriously freak out when I saw one - screaming, running away, needing to have someone else kill it, and I couldn't return to that spot unless I saw proof the spider was dead.  I used to get the heebie-jeebies just thinking about spiders.  But in July 2015, I had an experience that changed that for me... 
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My husband and I took a trip to Belize and spent some time in the jungle.  On our first day there, our tour guide grabbed a thin stick and asked us if we wanted to see what came out of this hole in the ground.  I knew it had to be either a snake or a spider, and I was only about three feet away!  I watched as he twisted the stick around in the hole, and after a few seconds, out came a tarantula that was about six inches long!  Surprisingly, I didn’t even jump.  The spider had no interest in me – he was just playing with the stick our tour guide was moving about.  I was entranced by him, and because I expected that he might appear, I didn’t feel afraid due to the element of surprise.  My husband looked at me and said, “You’re not freaking out!”  And my response?  “He’s actually kind of beautiful!”  I NEVER thought I would use that word to describe a spider.  After a minute or two, the tarantula went back into his hole and we all moved on.  A couple of days later, another tour guide grabbed a stick and brought us to a hole in the ground.  “Ooh, are we going to see a tarantula?” I excitedly exclaimed.  My husband looked at me and said, “Who are you and what did you do with my wife?  You actually WANT to see another tarantula?”  I did, and we saw two more!  These are REAL images we took of our tarantula experience (not fabricated or taken by anyone else)!
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The most amazing “ah-ha!” moment came for me later that week, when a pretty large spider (not a tarantula, but large by New York standards) found its way around the hot tub on our Belizean treehouse porch – right next to where we were preparing to take a bath!  While I initially jumped in surprise, since I didn’t expect to see him there, I didn’t freak out like I would have done previously!  I didn’t even feel the need to squash him!  I just gently guided him out of the way with my flip flop and went about my business – I even continued to take the bath!  I was SO proud of myself! 

A couple of weeks after our trip, the Museum of Natural History was having a "Spiders ALIVE!" exhibit - 20 live specimens of spiders for our viewing pleasure.  I insisted to my husband that we go.  I spent 1.5 hours going through the exhibit, observing all these spiders safely from behind glass and learning all about them.  My husband was not as impressed as I was, but for me I now felt empowered!  Seeing a spider no longer had a fear-inducing power over me - I was able to control my emotions and act rationally in their presence!   


So why did I tell you this story?  Because although I had been afraid of spiders my whole life, I was able to have some experiences without pressure, where I wasn’t having to react to the spider coming out of nowhere, and I was able to learn about spiders in a situation that actually brought me great joy (i.e. being in Belize).   Since then, I no longer freak out when I see a spider crawling on my wall or I walk into a spider web when on a hike.  I no longer hesitate about going into my parents’ old unfinished basement for fear I might find a spider on something that’s been buried away in storage for a while.  And when I'm gardening and see a spider, I just ask him to go on his way and I keep doing what I'm doing.  I learned to handle my fear reaction in a productive way I have been able to conquer my long-time fear of spiders!!

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